Friday, August 14, 2009

Saturdays With Dr. Roffman

Each Saturday, Dr. Joel Roffman, MD, a prominent Dallas cardiologist and author will share meaningful experiences he has had with patients who are dealing with a variety of physical and emotional issues. You will find the manner in which they deal with life’s problems to be practical, inspirational and uplifting.

A Life Fondly Remembered

Betty died last week. She finally succumbed after a long and heroic battle with her diseased bone marrow, her lung illness, and her other organs straining under the increasing weight of time and debility. The end of Betty’s time on earth came. Thank heavens it was peaceful.

Betty was actually the subject of the very first chapter of my book – an example of grace and cheerfulness despite serious medical conditions. She embodied the Talmud’s instructions to greet one another with a cheerful countenance. It’s easy to be pleasant when all is well. A person’s true
character, however, is revealed when things are not going so well.

I used to joke with Betty that the homemade cookies she routinely made for the office staff when she came in for her appointments were her “ticket of admission” to the office. It should surprise no one that her pleasant demeanor was returned by those with whom she came in contact. She even managed a smile for me each time I entered her hospital room during her final days.
Our children and grandchildren will remember much about us – our achievements, our hobbies, etc. They will also most assuredly remember how we handled adversity as we became old and sick. Of all the “crowns” we might acquire during our lifetime, the Talmud teaches us that, “The crown of a good name surpasses all.”

I know how Betty’s family will remember her. How will your family remember you?

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1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I hope my family has good memories of me--it is a good thing to keep in mind each day.